“Music doesn’t get in. Music is already in. Music simply uncovers what is there, makes you feel emotions that you didn’t necessarily know you had inside you, and runs around waking them all up. A rebirth of sorts.”Matt Haig, How to Stop Time
Sometimes the songs that are our favorites reflect our deepest desires, that we might not even be conscious of. Maybe not even the whole lyrics of the song but just one or a few lines mean a lot to us. Something like that happened to me with the song Rockstar by Nickleback. Back when I didn’t even have the vocabulary to explain that I was a trans man, the line ‘I’d even cut my hair and change my name’ in the song lyrics meant a lot to me. And that made the whole song a favorite of mine.
Some songs are personal in another sense. They support you when you feel lost and feel as if no one understands you. They validate your feelings and make you feel less alone. The song ‘Loneliness knows me by Name’ by Westlife worked for me in such a way, validating my emotions and at the end of the day just being a song that I could sing-along to on repeat.
We are not omniscient. We expect others to understand us but we can’t even properly be congnizant of our own feelings and emotions. Many times when we feel that no one gets us, maybe even we don’t get ourselves. And in this journey of life, each day can be a day of self-discovery. Many times, you only become aware of your present dispositions, but sometimes you are amused by observing a link between your past preferences and present life. Maybe after many years you realize the significance of your favorite songs in your life, the support they gave you, what they really meant to you, and how they gave you strength to carry on each day.
What were your favorite songs growing up? More importantly what did they mean to you? Can you see a link?